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Breaking Down the Breakup

lazyyogi:

There are plenty of challenges I am currently untangling. One of them is my recent breakup. Two weeks ago I parted ways with my girlfriend of a year and a half. 

It hasn’t been easy but I now have the opportunity to practice the many things I advise others going through a breakup. I figured why not share this experience with you all. Maybe you’ll find something useful in it. 

Things that I am practicing:

  • Coming back to myself. Relationships get us accustomed to being one half of a whole. We are used to saying good morning and goodnight to someone. There is a constant other presence there. When that is gone, it can leave us feeling rootless. 
    • Coming back to yourself helps us to forgive, let go, and be grateful. 
    • This act of greater self-presence and self-remembrance aids in centering and reorienting ourself in our naturalness. 
  • Reclaiming energy leant out. There are parts of our energy that we invest in our relationships. If that relationship ends, the lingering energy can get us stuck in certain cyclic experiences and habits. Calling back that energy helps both parties to move on. 
    • How exactly to accomplish this abstract practice is a matter of personal discovery. 
    • Art, energy work, and breathing techniques are a good place to start. Also burning things. 
  • Reorienting my intentions for the future. It is time I re-evaluate why I would seek a romantic partner and what I would seek in such an individual. 
    • At the moment, I have my focus on my studies anyway. I am not actively seeking anything or anyone. 
    • Priorities, standards, and desires should be examined and accounted for. 
    • I am not controlled by the need for emotional validation, sex, or possession over another person. As such I can use this time to gain a clearer vision of what my ideal relationship might be like. 

There are moments I still feel a sadness. But where I feel that sadness also reminds me of where my heart is, and that it is still working. And for that I am grateful. 

Namaste my friends. 

(Source: lazyyogi)

Apr 05, 2017

puella-b asked:

Hey yogi, I know you're not an expert on life or spiritual practice in general but you do have a lot of insight. I was just wondering if you have any advice on how to deal with grieving and how to stay aware/conscious during painful times? I lost my brother recently and feel like I've also lost myself in the process Namaste

lazyyogi Answer:

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I cannot imagine what you might be feeling. 

There are no rules with grief. It is different for everyone. Some people break down immediately. When my father died, I was relatively okay but as the years passed, the enormity of his death increasingly dawned on me. 

If you can meditate, meditate. If you can practice mindfulness, be mindful. At the very least breathe and be present with your breath. 

When we feel pain, our initial urge is to make it go away. We don’t want to feel the pain. Yet feeling that pain is part of the healing process. To numb ourselves to it requires us to build walls and become unnatural. 

At the same time, try not to indulge your pain. This means don’t use your pain as a lens to understand yourself, your brother, your past, your future, the world. 

Just feel it, honor it, and let it be. 

There may be some good days and there may be some bad days. There is no timeline when it comes to grieving. It could take you days, weeks, months, or even years. 

It never really goes away but rather it changes. It can make you a more sensitive and compassionate person. It can help you to recognize the value of life and contemplate the reality of death. 

If you feel like you have lost yourself, then come back to yourself. A book that might help you through your grief is The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. It did a lot for me and perhaps it will for you as well. 

If you ever need to talk, feel free to drop me a line on messenger. 

Namaste my friend. Much love. 

Apr 05, 2017

The bumblebee was officially added to the endangered species list.

veganuniversity:

vegan-vulcan:

alexandratheterrible:

 Please:

  • Go plant an organic flower native to wherever you are
  • Leave your “weeds” alone they probably aren’t hurting anything
  • Stop using/buying Roundup and all other insecticides, herbicides, pesticides. 
  • If you have a bee problem (which almost never happens) call a local beekeeper! They will remove them safely free of charge
  • Bumblebees usually nest underground and just wanna be left alone! They won’t hurt you. To prevent destroying their habit during hibernation, avoid mowing yards until April or May. If you do mow, raise the blades to the highest setting

Please save my fat clumsy fuzzy friends I love them and they’re very good pollinators.

Fuck :(((((

yall weren’t listening

(via mentalalchemy)

Feb 02, 2017

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